I’ve read somewhere that one of the steps to stay positive is to avoid being around negative people. Somehow, I am not buying it. Because if you do, you are not different than those you try to avoid.
To me, positive thinking is about perception: spinning harsh realities to discover a silver lining and to be productive. That’s why I consider positive people as stronger species - they don’t give up easily on negative situations. Some people have the qualities to be positive - either naturally or learned, and some don’t; and we have to accept it.
And that’s why for me, positive people have the responsibility to try influence the negative ones, and not avoid them. I view it as absurdity when positive people simply decide to walk away from them to protect their own feelings. Isn’t it much better if you try to direct them out of dark? Isn’t the correct strategy around negative people is to bring sunshine when rain is pouring?
I’m not against avoiding them, especially if your strategies are not working. And I understand if you would prefer to step away: at some point, we need to think of what’s best for ourselves, too. What I’m saying is, “leaving” should be the last resort. Try first to change the mood to something light, and do it sincerely and with the best of your ability before leaving them sulking. Display your strength and encourage them to whistle a happy tune. If you don’t, then you are showing that you are as weak as they are.
And this reminds me of a friend of mine, who we’ll call Christine. She had a rough time one day and was complaining about how underpaid she was considering the work she had been doing for the company we were working for. She went on and on, whining, and talking about how her supervisor didn’t take care of her when the latter missed giving her the salary increase that was due that month. I was just listening, and I treated her stories lightly. I was even smiling like it was no big deal.
When she was finally done, I told her: “count your blessings.” She was silent for a moment, speechless. She didn’t see it coming. She said, “I know, but…” and failed to continue. The next morning, I received a voicemail from her thanking me for my timely words the previous day. Imagine if I encouraged her to whine more or to support her negative thoughts? I would feel bad about it knowing I could change the situation. Instead, two souls felt better that morning.
I stumbled upon Edward Mills‘ detailed article about tips for staying positive around negative people. It was an excellent read. I can relate to some of his tips because I’ve been using them unconsciously. Although if I were him, I would clarify that “avoidance” should be the last option. In fact, I would say “STAY”, because it is the right thing to do; and because negative people are not always negative all the time.
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Maybe they walk away from the negative people because they really aren’t that “positive” about themselves to begin with. Afraid perhaps a fragment of that negativity might brush on them, rub off a bit and they wouldn’t be able to counter and shake it off then. Just my theory there.
I used to work with a guy who was relentlessly negative. The only way I could stay sane was to do stuff like drop lint in his tea, or piss under his desk after working late. Eventually he caught a bacterial infection and died, but the months I did spend with him were hell.
I think it’s a trickier subject than that. Sometimes people are passive aggressive and/or actual psychopaths. People with narcissistic personality disorder or antisocial personality disorder, for instance… You shouldn’t give them any chances, because they’ll really screw up your head, and there is little hope of reform for them outside of therapy. It’s not a situation where it’s good advice to say, “Stay in there until you get out…” because not everyone will be able to get out once they’re in.
In certain cases the most positive thing you can do for a person is to tell them off and then act like they don’t even exist.
I know there is a lot of power in the tongue, I think by our words we can create blessings or cursings. I have to pull myself up quite often when I want to complain about a situation, because maybe I am making it worse by cursing it with my words instead helping it by blessing it by finding positives words. Or at least do as we were told as kids “If you can’t find something good to say don’t say anything at all”
Hmm, I think I was misinterpreted and I apologize … by “negative people” I meant people I already know: like friends, family members, co-workers and others we meet everyday. People we can’t avoid seeing in our everyday lives and not psycopaths by its technical definition.
I’m sorry. I have to avoid negative people to keep my sanity.
i’m am the type who avoids negative people. lately, though it seems that these people cannot be avoided after all (there’s just so much pessimism these days that they’re all around you). so just like what you said, influencing them is a better approach as long as you think you have a control somehow over them. Examples are family members, friends, peers and subordinates.
others that should be avoided all the way are bad media people, politicians, criminals (esp. terrorists) and bad drivers. : )
Cris, thanks. Yup, that’s exactly what I meant. I’m a teacher, and everyday I meet and interact with negative people (co-teachers and students), what am I supposed to do? We are trained to motivate and influence people, and that’s simply the point of this post.
i agree with you brotha. sometimes you need to be around negative people just so you can re-evaluate your negativity level. sometimes you gotta be around the most negative person that will make you say to yourself, “damn, i thought i was a killjoy!”. from there, if you have a good heart, you will do what it takes to be a more positive person. negativity kills! however the nature of humans is negative and that far outweighs those that live positively. you would think that we could be equally positive for humankind, but that is too much to ask for these days.
all i know is that i try to do my part to be positive and create a positive atmosphere amongst those that i come in contact with.
and saedel, thanks for that love that you left at my blog brotha. i will be consistently coming through to holla atcha when you drop your blog posts.
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I agree in that you have to let your light shine. It’s good to be a positive influence on people and try to help them out where and when you can.
I do also think though, that you can’t help everyone and after you do what you can, it is up to the person to change their attitude. You can’t do that for them, you can only lead by example.
Good Post.
I actually try to talk to and help people that are really negative and overall “downers. Society really treats these people with little to no respect, and I find that disgusting. They’re people to, but most folk just want to get away from them. It’s a shame that people can be such jerks.
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Sometimes I feel negative, sometimes I don’t. I don’t want people bugging me when I’m negative, but, if they’ve made the effort I really appreciate it when I’m feeling more positive about things. We’re all in the negative-positive spectrum someplace!
I think you just have to make sure you stay positive and don’t get dragged down in the swamp of negativity. It’s always good to have a mix of people around so there will always be some who are up when others feel down. There’s nothing worse, though, than when everyone is down at the same time and it turns into a pity party.
Hi saedel,
TO be honest, i actually have the same belief as you do.
I too get to meet many negative people. I don’t think avoiding them is good my myself personally as this would means shutting out opportunities to reach out to them. I do belief that we should influence the people that surrounds our everyday life and NOT to avoid anyone who is not ‘likable’ in that sense. We should make the world a better place to live in…and that means that we cannot choose to avoid negative people!
When i get crap… i just leave.. simple as that. It really works !
Yes,I think also that being positive among positive is the easiest thing in the world.The most important thing is sharing our positivty with negative persons.Thanks..
Unfortunately my workplace is heavily populated with negative people - I always walk home (my apartment is only a mile from my office in London) with my friend who tells me about how his marriage is going bad and so on… although it does make me realise how lucky I am to be more positive.
It’s great to feed off each others vibes as lens pointed out above. But certainly only when positive. Being around negative people just drains the soul of all thats good and pretty much just bites the big one. Why cant we all just get along.. as bob marley would say… don’t worry… be happy.
I used to be so negative and pessimistic. Thankfully not that bad anymore. But honestly I can’t stay around negative thinking people…one negative person can bring down the spirit of 10 people, I tell you
Wish there are more encouraging and optimistic people around he-eh
Thank’s,nice post…
Great article. That meant a lot to me. Keep up the good writing.
I spent a semester with a negative person living in my room and I feel like I have definitely changed for the worse
Sometimes I feel negative, sometimes I don’t. I don’t want people bugging me when I’m negative, but, if they’ve made the effort I really appreciate it when I’m feeling more positive about things. We’re all in the negative-positive spectrum someplace!
I know there is a lot of power in the tongue, I think by our words we can create blessings or cursings. I have to pull myself up quite often when I want to complain about a situation, because maybe I am making it worse by cursing it with my words instead helping it by blessing it by finding positives words. Or at least do as we were told as kids “If you can’t find something good to say don’t say anything at all”
Ummm , I think I was misinterpreted and I apologize … by “negative people” I meant people I already know: like friends, family members, co-workers and others we meet everyday. People we can’t avoid seeing in our everyday lives and not psycopaths by its technical definition.
Everyone is negative on occasion but its those people who always seem to be negative that are the ones to avoid. I think its all about the energy - some people suck it out of you while others give you energy.
That was a very well thought out post. Im glad I accidentally stumbled upon this.
Well said, However, I would say that it all depends on how mentally strong you are from inside. If you metal toughness and priorities are straight then it doesn’t matter wat sort of persons surrounds you. Cause you will be judging yourself or be in more control on which person should have any effect on you …
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Great tip’s. Thanks to shared.
Negative people suck and just spread negativity throughout the universe. As a result good people have to work harder transmitting positive energy…wait, is this post negative?
avoiding negative people is negative, Marques.
I agree with you to most extent, My grandmother always said “those who argue are smarter than those who don’t” . In other words I think what she meant by that was in general conversation it is healthy to look at the downside aswell, and use your brain more instead of just nodding their head and agreeing.
Sometimes I feel negative yeah but sometimes I don’t.We’re all in the negative positive spectrum someplace! may be
Isn’t negativity an essential part of life? Kind of like the yin-yan theory? For every positive person there is a negative person. If we were all super positive, shiny, happy people the world would be boring. We wouldn’t have horror films or songs about heartache. Do you get my drift people?
What for you means concept ” negative people “? Whom can you so to name? Whether you are negative from a position of those people?
Sometimes being around negative people can help you to realise that you are not negatice. You will see people much worse than you.
Negative people will rub off on you and make you an emotional wreck ! Great article and good reminder thanks.
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meet and interact with negative people (co-teachers and students), what am I supposed to do? We are trained to motivate and influence people, and that’s simply the point of this post.
Thanks, your article encourages me to speak up more to encourge those who are negative to be grateful for the blessings they have.
Really interesting article, thanks.
Hmm, I think I was misinterpreted and I apologize … by “negative people” I meant people I already know: like friends, family members, co-workers and others we meet everyday. People we can’t avoid seeing in our everyday lives and not psycopaths by its technical definition.
I get frustrated when around negative people but I dont avoid them. Usually i just give them a little support a compliment or something like that.
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Good post, We Can’t avoid Negative People in all, in some case negative people is positve
I do have to avoid them because I don’t lose my hair to quickly and I dont want to be become one of them.
Sometimes I make it worse by cursing with my words instead helping it by blessing it by finding positives words. I get frustrated when around negative people but I don’t avoid them.
If we would avoid all the negatives surrounding us, how would we define the negativity?
It seems that encouragement works better when you are on the “other” side.
Also the responsibility is an issue well addressed here.
Great post!
This is a very important subject in virtually any business situation. Negative people squander energy by using negative energy. If negative people could simply convert their negative energy into positive energy, the world would be a better place for all of us. It is best to avoid negative people.
I never aviod negative people becxause it just caused them to go even more negative
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Positivity doesn’t come at the cost of avoiding negativity. A coin has flip sides, and we cannot and should not avoid it.
It, actually helps you take out your shortcomings and improve them.
I think we must not aviod negative people, else because it just will make them more and more negative.
Sure you should not!
You point out some really important points. And you are right about not just walking away from a negative person. There will be times when you cannot do that. At some point you have to learn how to deal with negative people in a positive way. You have outlined a few ways here to start learning how to do just that. I am awful at dealing with whiners. Thanks for the insite.
I think you hit it right on. Negative people think about negative things. And you made her focus on something more positive and she loved it. =)
By avoiding negative people we can think positively and so that we will learn how to love people. Nice article
To each their own, but negative people are like energy drains to me. They are like vampires that suck up your positive energy and drag you down with them. I avoid them at all costs so they can’t rub off on me…
Well, it is simple, if you want to be social, don’t be negative.
really nice and very well written article and i totally agree with you if there were no negative people in this world then how come they made all the positive stuff?
Alot of people may have misconceptions of what negative people are. Theres a fine line between a negative person and constructive criticism. saying someone is a negative person because they have given you a different outlook may not be so wise. I suppose it just boils down to how you listen and understand what “they” are saying. And if your emotionally mature, then negative people will avoid YOU cause you can not be stirred by their cynicism.
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While I agree with him on some parts of the article I really go out of my way to avoid negativity. It just takes way too much out of me.
hanks, your article encourages me to speak up more to encourge those who are negative to be grateful for the blessings they have.
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Everyone in your life appeared in it for a reason. You attracted them into your life with your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs.
Now suppose you then start to change your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs, over a period of time, in a big way. Many of those people who were in your life will naturally begin to drop out.
And they will be replaced by new, different people, who are now being attracted into your life by your new, different thoughts.
You have to ignore the negative people out there!
Well I also have similar situation. I am a positive person hanging around negative people. Sometimes it is impossible to influence them if there is too much negatives around. If you get them one by one or in small groups you can affect him and influence his thinking but most of the times people just tend to think negative and be negative about the world.
But what can we do. Us positives have to change the world.
yes if there r too many negetive people around,then it becomes really impossible to change anyone,s mind…the best alternative is to better stay away from them….
we can’t judge someone is negative person before we become his/her close friend right?? thx for the dofollow
Negativity is death.
Great take on an oft-avoided subject. Thanks!
I really dislike negativ people, however sometimes they are negativ for a reason, and i feel sorry for them. Other people are just born negativ and it’s really hard to have anything to do with these people.
Very good article.
I totally agree with what you wrote in the passage. Avoiding negative is not a solution but a form of escaping from the reality. And the fact is that, wherever you run, you will still meet negative people.
So, why not learning how to face and overcome them? Stay positive is really a very hard work to do, but it is doable with a lot of patience and practice.
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Seriously, that is exactly what happens in life. people say that negativity should be avoided but at the same time we cant avoid the realty as well
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Death is negative. good posting here.
Thanks for this post. its valuable.
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Avoiding negative people is not a bad idea. When you stay around with them, make friends with them, and you will become one like them. I think so, everything changes incredibly, and it changes slowly. You can’t know what you will be one day.
But avoiding negative is not a perfect idea either. So the best way is to choose the right people to make friends.
I’m always on a positive side on all aspect of my life and having negative personalities around you can sometimes affect on how you view your own.
All i know is think positive. I like your post, thanks.
I feel like a complete blank, but what can I say?,
Avoiding negativity is better for you. There was an article on CNN.com yesterday about how your spouse’s negativity can impact you. I am sure there is a similar function in other types of relationships.
Being negative can effect your health and relationships with other people is just not a good thing I agree.
Dealing with negative people from time to time is unavoidable. It’s better to learn how to handle these people, so when you do have to be around them, you don’t get sucked into their negativity black hole.
You have outlined a few ways here to start learning how to deal with this. You summit out some truly important points. And you are right about not dealing with a negative person. At several point you have to become skilled at how to deal with negative people in a optimistic way.
good post..
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negative people can be good as well and here is what i mean, if your are positive all the time you may not have the balance that a negative person can give you, positive people and negative people need each other
This is a tough subject — I think the point above applies in many situations — not all people are negative all the time. But I’m going to disagree about what I’ll truly call “hopelessly negative people” — and I’m afraid there are a lot of them. There are some people who are just SOUR. There are people who are just DOWN. No matter what, no matter who, they will always find drama, always find problems, and always find something to complain about. And the problem is that these people will just bring you and everyone around them down in the mud with them. So yes, if you can help, help. But when you encounter a truly negative person, it’s time to walk away.
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Nothing grates me more than when people leave nothing but negativity on their facebook status thus informing the world how miserable they are. One thing if they are truly miserable like they can’t pay their mortgages or something but most of the time it is about trivial stuff.
I agree with you positive people by nature should involve with negative people to try to influence them. Positive people like to turn everything positive thats why they will try to change negative ones making this a better world
My co-worker recently had to go to the doctor because she felft that her stress leverl was uncontrollable. the first question she says the doctor asked was if she associated with a lot of negative people.
The doctor explained that would be the source of her stress and ulcer because she didn’t have anything else that would stress her out.
Positivity doesn’t come at the cost of avoiding negativity. A coin has flip sides, and we cannot and should not avoid it.
It, actually helps you take out your shortcomings and improve them.
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You must be a very courageous person to not being around negative people, but I have been through it all. If you are around people who are negative they are either going to bring you down with themselves or you’re going to get stressed out trying to uplift them. I gave up a long time ago with that, but I do give you props for trying. I just don’t have the time or the patience to deal with these people. I have two jobs and hits hard enough trying to get through life.
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Great article, thanks for sharing
Very informative.
Let me put it this way. If you master your positive thinking you will find that you don’t have to exert any effort to avoid negative people. The Universe will work in a way that you meet more positive people as you progress. You think positively and you attract positive things and positive people. Just as simple as that!
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I hate it when people with bad attitudes bring me down!
I will bet that positive people lead a fuller happier life…..they live long too!
Yes, Some times I love to deal with negetive ones. I see, how they act and respond to me. Very interesting to talk to them.
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The advantage of being around negative people is that it’s easier for you to feel better about yourself.
A soft of being happier with the money you have because those around you have lest phenomenon. Comparitive advantage for the psyche?
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And that’s why for me, positive people have the responsibility
to try influence the negative ones, and not avoid them. I view it as absurdity
when positive people simply decide to walk away from them to protect their own
feelings. Isn’t it much better if you try to direct them out of dark?
I agree with you positive people by nature should involve with negative people to try to influence them. Positive people like to turn everything positive thats why they will try to change negative ones making this a better world
negitive people give ya a diffrent outlook on your day…
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I dont avoid negative people, I simply let them talk their stuff even though I dont like it.
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I will not avoid negative people, I will just ignore their ‘negative’ thoughts…
I happen to be close to some negative people and you just have to avoid them at times, and other times, just nod your head and then change the subject to something positive so that you don’t get sucked in.
Meh.
Negative people should learn how to be positive.
I don’t want their thoughts infecting my positive ones, so I just stay away…
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i try to avoid people who make me think negative thoughts
I also try to avoid people with negative energy, definitely a strong believer in energy
I agree with about that. I had an experience with that, after we’re get married, finally that i realize that my beloved wife recently be a negative person. How can i avoid the one that I’d love so much? So I’d tried to spread the positive air when i being with her. After several years she had change to be a positive person. It makes me think that even negative people can be positive people too.
It is very very important to have negative peoples with us because they will always criticize us.
If they criticize then we can achieve our goal easily.
Even i got criticized by my friends, but not most of my friends are unemployed but i got entered into business and earned a lots and i am the highest earner of all my friends.
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Personally I just cut negative people out of my life whenever possible. There is no sense attempting to change the way someone is, in the long run that just won’t work. Some people NEED to complain and be negative because thats how they have always been. I just cut them out and go on with my life.
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I would have to disagree…
We tend to share energy levels with one another. This simply means that, negative energy will rub off on to the person with positive energy.
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Dealing with negative people is very painful. I have a friend and his wife is very negative. every time we go out is a sure heated discussion.
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I find some people make me feel positive and others make me feel negative. I try to surround myself by those that add to me. And the ones that take away from me I know all too well - and it’s always the same! Great post though, it got me thinking which is not a bad thing!
I think you will have to be a very very very positive person to stay around negative persons..if you are a positive person you will influence others in a good way even the negative ones.
I have dealt with a lot of negative people and the best way is to just let it go in one ear and out the other
I totally agree, negative people are jut a part of life and you have to learn to deal with them. There is nothing you can do about that.
Now I guess I won’t have to ‘punch negative people in the face’ lol
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Good post. I hate negative people cause they’ll just start arguing without a reason.
Nice post, sometimes i just ignore them
I do hangout with negative people, but when I get sh*t, I leave
“positive people have the responsibility to try influence the negative ones, and not avoid them.”
I don’t agree with that but in short - nice post
Good post. I hate negative people cause they’ll just start arguing without a reason.
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Whenever i get negative people around me, i usually ignore theme and move on. or else they get you in trouble anyhow.
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That was a great insight! Instead of running away from negative people we can try and influence them to be ore positive. But you gotta be careful doing that as it is also easy to influenced by them .. y’know negativity spreads too ..
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good post! I agree, that you shouldn´t avoid being around negative people, sometimes they dont even realize that they are been negative and it also could be a medical problem, if the brain is producing low levels of serotonin people get depress and negative,if you are a positive person you should try to help next time!!
good post!! I agree you shouldn´t avoid being around negative people, sometimes they don´t even realize they are been negative and it could be a medical problem, lack of serotonin makes people get depress and negative, if you are a positive person try to help them next time!
Yes the positive minded people can help wipe out or at least ease up the negative thinking of people around them …
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I must say that I try to avoid the negative ones because it affects me so much.
Yeah sometimes they don’t know that they are negative but I do not know how would I tell her that.
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If you are only around positive people you would never have a gauge of how it good it is. You can also get positive energy from positively affecting negative people.
Yes, I agree - people affect each other in every way. We are group animals, and each animal in the group adapts to the group. I’ve met a lot of people, and it may be a coincidence, but these groups are mostly very alike. I.e. I met 3 guys for a meeting - all 3 very funny. Then the next day I meet 5 guys that are all very ‘dark and serious’.
This has been in work, not friends, so I don’t think we can use the argument that ‘we make friends with people like ourselfs’. Interesting phenomenen.
Thank you for your post. It is advantage for me.
Interesting take on it.
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Always avoid negative people, i did that today.
Nice post.
Sometimes I can be a negative person. I try not to avoid negative people because they can have good ideas to!
I thank you for such a responsible, kind-hearted article. Speaking as someone who has suffered a near-breakdown over traumatic life circumstances, I know how grateful I am that my husband has stood by me for the last 9 years. Even when I have been overwhelmed by negativie fears and thoughts, he has been a strong tower of positivity. He did not walk away and I am now hoping at last to see a more positive future for both of us.
This is a great post.
Being in the marketing industry i tend to be around negative people alot. I tend to take them people as constructive critiscers though and use their negativity to improve myself and my work!
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Wonderful post.
I am also in the marketing industry and could say that is a great place to be. Most attractive part of every business. 
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I agree too…….
I have a different outlook, I am a so-called “negative” person.. so i know what if feels like to be walked away from. I have positive people around me but its no help, they can never get into my head and help me get more positive. The way to change my negitive attitude is to take some time away form my life (i.e. - take 15-30 minutes) and do a self reflection in my house. Its quite, and I am being truthful to myself and it works for me! It does take time to build that skill about being truthful but its worth it for me in the long run
My boss is very ‘negative” for sure… but i still can be good team work
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I think it’s very important to stay positive in all situations. Negativity is like a black hole. It will suck you in.
Nice article!
There is always good side and bad side even the worst negative people.
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This was a very well written and thought out article. Keep it coming!
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Nice share.
I do agree about not avoiding negative ppl, and this post confirmed my thoughts.
negative people make me feel better about my own posotiveness
Negativity is terrible and can end up causing illness. It is also not good for partners and friends.
Great article! I totally agree that avoiding negative people is not a good thing. You need negative people to help you realize how positive you really are and it makes you just that much happier
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thank for this article really i try avoid the negative ones because it affects me so much and make me not happy
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I always avoid negative people and will continue to do so. They make me unhappy and I certainly wouldn’t let them in my house.
We can’t avoid negative people because negative people all around the world and with them our mentality is also begin negative
very disgusting hope in future i will avoid them
you must write on why we must not too :p
I feel your idea is uncommon. In fact, I will avoid negative person for my comfort also. Surely, many thanks for share.
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Negative people just like a pain in the neck!
I support the view to guide the people thinking negatively instead of avoiding them. Dealing with the people having negative approach teaches us to tackle adverse conditions. Thanks for this thought provoking writeup.
Dealing with negative people from time to time is unavoidable. It’s better to learn how to handle these people.
i happen to be close to some negative people and you just have to avoid theem at times, and other times, just nod your head and then change the subject to somethinng positive so that you don’t get sucked in.
I agree with, is there any article similar to it ?
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This was a really nice and well written article and i totally agree with you
Great post, I try to stay as far away from negative people as humanly possible
As from my point of view, we should encourage negative thinkers to create a good perception. Perception always plays an important role in or thinking. Nice article. Thanks.
As from my point of view, perception always plays an important role in or thinking. Negative thinkers should be inspired. Nice article. Thanks.
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Avoiding negative people not a solution but need to care that negativity not effect on our positivity, at some extant we help to convert negativity thoughts into positive but at last on depend own self.
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At the moment I’m reading a book about the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction states that a like will attract like. So if you are giving off negative emotions or thoughts then you will attract more negativity. Whereas if you have a positive outlook on things you will attract more positive things into your life. It sounds wierd but after trying out the techniques the book suggests I’m wondering whether there may be something in it. Remember think positive.
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I totally agree. You truly seem like a positive person. It is, ironically, a negative view of the world to think negative people are negative at all times and will always be negative. A truly positive person would at least try to change their negative outlook, because he or she would assume they can be positive.
good blog post!
yup, i am with you , in Hindi mythology, writers also said the same thing, to keep negative people near you. they say that negative people by telling you your mistakesmake you a positive person.
positive save the world!
i agree
Hmm, I think I was misinterpreted and I apologize … by “negative people” I meant people I already know: like friends, family members, co-workers and others we meet everyday. People we can’t avoid seeing in our everyday lives and not psycopaths by its technical definition.I really appericiate your ideas & i am totally with it.
Avoidance works if the person who is avoiding a negative person is not easily influenced by this N person. But if he or she wants to do something good to this negative person then I think we render some care to this person.
My 2cents worth
Yes, it is better to confront negative people instead of leaving them.
Great post dude.. agree with you “negative people are not always negative all the time”
People avoids negative people because they don’t wont to be negative like them, very difficult to convert negative thoughts into positive, so would be batter to try once and still not understand to avoid negative people.
avoiding negative people not perfect solution, so once it would be batter to inspire them for positive thinking, it may become solution for negative peopel.
Great post….new mission, trasform negative people in positive!!!
Even if it is really difficult…:)
I do not avoid them, I make friends with them instead.
Negative people don’t really bother me that much. A little annoying, but that’s about it.
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I guess the best solution for that is not avoiding them instead we help them to left-up their spirits by trying them to convert from negative to positive
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in my opinion, if we keep a distance with negative people, when they can changed became good people. on the other side, if we’re so week, maybe we’ll became negative like them. so, my suggestion is, we must be optimism to not follow them. after that, we try to change them became a good man with the best that we can try.
You were lucky you managed to get through to her. I’m one of those relentlessly negative people, and it’s just hard for me to hear anyone sometimes.
I heard on tv a number of days ago that happy people have a 17% chance to infect their closest ones with happyness. Allegedly a town in the usa participated in such a study from the early 1970s. It turned out that the further a person lived away from other happy people the less chance was that he was happy.. crazy..
Individu personality is not static but dynamic. So dont avoid negative people all d time. Some times we can see positive things at them ^^
Negative thinking helps with planning for contingencies
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Negative thoughts always helps a person in a positive manner if he/she believes in risk factors in any business deals. BTW, its really helpful one.
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I love this post and recommend a read. It is absolutely true that we shouldn’t avoid negative people instead try to persuade them in all ways to bring a positive change. - Mike
Nice article.Thanks for writing!
An excellent article most definitely pointing out clearly how we have choices all the time in every way. This incredible game of duality can have no end as illustrated perfectly by this piece. You choose and the game carries on and on presenting more and more consequences of your decisions. The only thing that can make you gape with even more awe is knowing that you are more than that solitary figure playing the game of consequences, the real you extends beyond any horizon that that figure can contemplate. The real you is absolutely everything. Enjoy it!
I think we have to avoid some negative people, because in some situations it can be even dangerous for health and life.
Thanks for share
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personally i do not like negative people, they will endanger or influence you to become pessimism.
avoid them, avoid them.
trust me i agree, try spending time with my family, very negative aint they bood style!
I do not think positive people can be influenced by the negative people.Negative people always have complaint that is a way for them to feel better.Give the negative people more space.
Just keep on smiling:)
I like it, very interesting!!!
good article.
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i do not think so . i think we can totally avoid nagetive people as long as we have positive emotion.
I happen to completely disagree. Okay… maybe you shouldn’t avoid every negative people out there but hey! Why stick around someone who makes you hate your situation all the time. Fun… success… happiness is in your head to you might want to stick with people who are happy and like to let you know.
Just my two cents - Phil,
Good article. But i think we don’t avoid them we should try to change their thinking.