If you are a YES person trying to get out of your shell, perhaps you have already read few topics about “LEARNING TO SAY NO” from books or internet or any articles. But I will not talk about that in this post.

In fact, what I’m going to talk about is “When NOT to say NO”.

Sometime in my early 20′s, I needed something personal done, and to make it happen, I also needed someone I can trust to do something big for me. So I turned to my friend, who I knew I can count on. I came to him with high hopes and told him the plan and seeked his help. But to my surprise, I was denied.

I’m not the type of guy who asks for help all the time, so I was taken aback by the rejection. I knew he can do the favor, and it wasn’t his nature to reject someone. The thing was, I also knew he was in to this “LEARN TO SAY NO” practice. I am his friend, and he was giving me that “no”-routine? I felt it was not right, but I didn’t say anything and acted like it was nothing. But it wasn’t. It still bothers me.

I am okay with that saying no habit, only if done correctly.

So when do you not say no?

When a favor was asked of you no matter how small or big it is, and you know you can do it, then say yes, especially when someone is really counting on you. Stop practicing saying no just for the sake of it. Do you really have anything to lose? Nothing really, if you think about it.

Is it really going to kill you if you say yes?

I don’t think so.

A person will not come to you and ask for help if he knows you are not capable of doing it.